I said that recently at Fei’s podcast,
And… Of course….
In true “Idea Machine style”…
that conversation invited me to elaborate and come up with ten/eleven reasons why it is so important for women (and men, of course) but specifically, in this case, for women, to become idea machines.
Here are them:
1.- WOMEN STILL GET PAID LESS THAN MEN
Ideas are the currency of the 21st century
Because the old job and the retirement, or even social security is rather “iffy” at best these days.
We don’t exactly know how the money will come, but then again, in the past way of life, we also didn’t exactly know, because if we did then we were at a “job”, where the number was small and fixed…
And nobody ever generates wealth that way…. Because there is little value added at a fixed, “boring” job.
Thinking of wealth in terms of ideas levels the plain-filed.
Just like the Philharmonic orchestra got more women into their pool of talented musicians once they started auditioning by hearing music BUT with a screen covering the gender.
Just like that screen… ideas allow us to level the field.
2.-LET’S ASK MORE QUESTIONS
I will tell you one thing that disheartened me while reading Lean In…
Sheryl says that when she gives talks it is always men that raise their hands and ask questions. Women rarely ask.
I am not saying we should be CEO’s, or start companies, or run Facebook’s operations, and I am also NOT saying we should be more like men…
I am just saying we need to start raising our hand and speaking up... And asking questions.
In the book “The Confidence Code” (see recommended reading below) I read that studies show that women will apply for a job (or ask a question) only if they feel 100% prepared.
Men will apply for a job if they feel they are 70% prepared!
And ask a question even when they don’t have one.
This is something I’ve been sensing quite a bit, and that is why these days….
I ASK QUESTIONS. Every time.
[Keep calm image from here]
Even if I don’t know know what I am about to ask…
Just as I did in the last conference where as I lifted my hand I had no idea what I was going to ask. But I did have a question!
So yes, the question was formulated between the moment the hand started going up and the moment the speaker said: “yes”?
It is evolutionary for us to raise our hands, to ask, to take risks, to be bold.
Because our voice is missing from the conversation otherwise.
LISTING TEN IDEAS A DAY gets the idea muscle ready, flexible, in good shape, and trained to look for questions, to look for answers, to look for the “gaps”.
Then it is easier to ask questions.
3.- THE TRANSFORMATION IS DECEIVINGLY SLOW BUT POWERFULLY POTENT
Some people have began listing ideas together with me since the book launch, and many are sharing them (sometimes daily in Twitter)
I heard of someone who sent 10 ideas to a music festival, and now that festival has him help them with their croudsourcing efforts.
I sent 10 ideas to 99Designs because I used their services three times in three months and I had enough experience to know where they could improve.
The CEO Wrote me a letter this week:
We add “real, actionable, and good” value to others and…
It starts with a thank you letter…
For example James got his book Choose Yourself, and his next book “The Choose Yourself Guide To Wealth” in hard cover (which Amazon never does for self published authors) — BECAUSE OF HIS SENDING OF IDEAS
There is an imbalance in how we are perceived weather we admit it or not…
She had just finished two hours of yoga asana.
I HAD to ask her: “Do you hear yourself speak?”
I was not mean, I was encouraging, I think any woman with four kids is a super hero period.
Let’s remember that most of the time we do everything that men do, feel all the same stresses, and still make the bed and cook breakfast, thank you very much.
Ideas help us recognize our brain power, our dedication, our power of transformation, and the results we bring into the world.
And if you are ever in need of some padding in the back do this:
List your “I DID LIST” for today
List all the things you DID, TODAY
You WILL BE SHOCKED. Guaranteed…
When things fall apart, as they do, having a toned idea muscle allows the wisdom of the feminine energy to change perspective, to notice where our strength lies.
Heck! We are showing up for our daily practice!,
It helps us to reassure ourselves that this, too, shall pass.
And there is nothing like going 10-ideas on a problem… Because it shows different ways of looking at it, and in doing so we shift our perception
I am married to a strong man and I can see what happens when I play as if I am less, or not as important, and also, what happens when I act from my full power, as an equal, and sometimes even as a wise-teacher.
When I speak what I know to be truth, when I say what I mean because I know it in my bones to be truth, when I trust the words that come out of my mouth and yet have the humility to recognize if at some point they were not so wise.
I am not a genius, but as a female I am as powerful -if not more sometimes- than the male energy.
We can elevate the conversation.
We can bring up a notch, from silly gossip ot what really counts…
To how can we own our power?
How can we be more honest with ourselves?
How can we help each other, woman to woman (and men too… I love men)
How can we make sure when a woman is interrupted, that we say “excuse me, I would like for her to finish her thought”
How can we be more kind to one another?
How can we get out of the way of our feminine wisdom?
Listing ten ideas a day seems to be working for me.
A few weeks ago I got another of those bursts of depression.
I bought an audio book… Ellen… “Seriously I’m Kidding”
It made me feel better.
We women are GREAT at a sense of humor because we have to.
I noticed one thing listening to Ellen, she has a phrase going somewhere and suddenly it will turn crazy…
For example: she will say:
No woman is perfect… Except for Penelope Cruz
There is always that twist, that funny turn.
I’ve never laughed more than when in a group of women who trust each other…
We are witty people…
[Ellen image from here]
This is why I am recommending the book (audio better really), because we can bring our brilliant sense of humor to the world too…
One list I am going to be doing is “sentences that end in a funny twist…”
Amy Schummer: “I went to LA last week… Have you ever had your self esteem lowered?”
See the “twist”? We are great at it, and you KNOW IT !